Which of these were neighbor to him?

"So which of these three do you think was neighbor to him who fell among the thieves?" (Luke 10:36)

Over the past few weeks, I've been given reason to ponder on some things that have been turning in my head for quite some time - in fact, years.

Do you go to one of those churches where everyone hugs each other and tells them they love them? Sounds good, doesn't it? It can feel good, too. But ... does it mean anything?

"Of course it does!" we respond. We are brothers and sisters in the Lord. We are family. We love each other.

Are we? Do we really?

"Of course we do!"

Ok, let me put the question another way. Do we act like it? Do we demonstrate our love and concern?

I've pondered this in my own life for several reasons, looking at it from both the giving and receiving end. I've also observed three separate situations recently and the evidence they have provided is inconsistent with what we say. Let me share some of those stories to keep it from sounding like just a "poor me" story. There seems to me to be a difference in what we say and what we do.

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Situation 1:

A 40-something year old man who ran in marathon races suddenly dropped dead in his home from a heart attack. In spite of faith-filled prayers and CPR, he did not revive. Of course, his wife was in a state of shock. Since there were children involved, she had to "be there" for them while dealing with her own grief and the reality of the sudden change in financial condition since he was the bread winner.

I had talked with someone who had known this couple for many years and was "a sister in the Lord" to them. I was seeking to find out from her what needs might be there. She told me how she had offered to bring pizza over and to do anything that needed to be done. Since no needs were expressed, she did nothing (other than taking some pizza over) and had no suggestions for me of things that needed to be done.

I barely knew this couple. But I knew they had a large family, most of which lived elsewhere, so that means they will need large quantities of food - meat, vegies, and dessert (aka - a meal). You don't ask; you assess the need and act on it.

I later learned that the ex-wife of the man who died (and mother of his oldest daughter) went over and cleaned the house before the out of town relatives arrived. She didn't call and ask; she simply showed up, cleaned the house, and left.

Which of these ladies was a neighbor to this woman? Her sister in the Lord? Or the woman who showed up to clean the house of the widow of her own ex-husband?

Situation 2:

Another 40-something year old man, also very athletic and healthy, collapsed when two aneurysms burst. After struggling for over a week, he, too, passed away leaving a wife and small children.

From what was said by the minister at the funeral services, this couple was very involved in their church. So, in the midst of roller coaster ride while his life hung in the balance and for a period of time afterwards, meals were provided to the family for the children and wife (when she was there to eat) and the extended family from out of town who were staying in their home to care for them while "mom" was at the hospital with "dad." Gift cards were also provided to help buy meals for the wife at the hospital or gas for her or the extended family who were driving back and forth from out of town or whatever was needed. And the lawn was kept cut.

Who did all that? Their church family? No. In as far as I know, they did not do anything. It was their coworkers who provided the food and gift cards and began taking care of the yard. Their neighbors took over the yard care and assisted with the food delivery, if no one was home when it was brought by daily for about a month.

Who were the neighbors to this family? Their church family? Or their coworkers and those who happen to live beside them?

Situation 3:

A man in his early 50s had a massive stroke. Once again, he and his wife were very committed to their local church.

His wife was "living" in the waiting room for the critical care unit, going home only to shower and freshen up and check on the house and the mail. Once again, gift cards for expenses she and their (grown) children were incurring and yard care was provided. Once again, it was his coworkers who provided these; not their church family.

Who were their neighbors?

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I could go on with more examples, but I think you get the point. It isn't enough to hug each other and say "I love you." "Love" isn't a word, nor it is a feeling. It's a commitment that elicits action on our part when the one we love is hurting or in need.

Let us ask ourselves ... to whom have we demonstrated our love recently?

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 9 In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. 10 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. (1 John 4:7-11)

covenant relationships

As a general rule, we in the United States do not grow up with the understanding of covenant that they do in some countries. Most people do at least acknowledge that marriage is a covenant relationship. However, the divorce rate in our country – among Christians as well as non-Christians – testifies to the fact that keeping that covenant relationship is not always a priority.

One evening this past week, I was caused to reflect on a particular covenant relationship I have had for about 15 years. The reflection was triggered by an incident in which my covenant friend was being viciously attacked by a family member and I “stepped in” to defend her from the lies that were being spewed. I won’t go into the details of that situation, but it did cause me to later reflect on my relationship with the friend I had defended.


What does it mean to be in covenant?

• It means being there when they need someone – without being asked.
  
• It means knowing “that’s not really necessary” sometimes means, “I don’t want to ask you to do that (but it would really be appreciated if you did).”
  
• It means watching their back and defending them – even if they are not around.
  
• It means being willing to step in front of them and “take the bullet” in their place – or provide the protective shield when they are under attack.
  
• It means being willing to utilize all of our resources (finances, time, energy, etc.) to meet a need they have.
  
• It means being as scripture said of David and Jonathan where their souls were knit together and “and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” (1 Sam 18:1)
  

In our society today where self-centered, watching-out-for-yourself sometimes seems to be the norm, it is often misunderstood when one person is willing to “lay down their life” for another – particularly when it is for a friend rather than a spouse or relative. It can be questioned even when it is for family.

I went through a season of care-giving for my mother in her final years. As she aged, the time and attention needed to do all that was needed continued to increase. Once when we were “back home” visiting extended family and friends, I had her cousins and then my cousins pull me aside and tell me that I needed to consider putting her in a nursing home, because (in their view) I shouldn’t “put my life on hold” for her. My thought was, “What?!”

In my view, I wasn’t putting my life on hold. I may have been putting some plans on hold, but not my life. I was living through a season of my life in which I had the privilege of caring for the person who had spent years caring for me. Why would I not want to do that? Isn’t giving ourselves away what love is about?

How many today are willing to do that even for a relative, much less for “a friend”? Yet, John 15:13 states, “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” (emphasis added)

Perhaps it is time to ask ourselves the question, “For whom would I do that?”

Then ask the question, “Who would do that for me?”

The answers to those two questions will reveal your true covenant relationships.

Oh what a tangled web we weave ….

“Oh what a tangled web we weave
When first we practice to deceive.”
(Sir Walter Scott)

As I sat in a Medical Intensive Care Unit (MICU) waiting area over this past weekend, I watched the demonstration of the truth of this phrase. I was sitting with a close friend whose brother is in the final stages of AIDS. Of course, AIDS does not kill you; it breaks the immune system down so that you contract something that does. In his case, he made it through Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma a few years back. Now it is Fungal Meningitis, which is very serious.

He had been in the hospital for a little over a week when he took a sudden, drastic dip that caused them to move him to MICU in the early hours of Saturday morning. When I met his sister and parents at the hospital at 1:30am, things did not look good. We did not expect him to make it through the day. Close friends were called a few hours later. His friends began arriving to be able to see him & friends of his parents began arriving to comfort them.

Here’s where the web begins to get tangled. The young man who is dying had never told his parents about his homosexual (actually, bi-sexual) lifestyle, so he also would not tell them when he learned he was HIV positive. Then, of course, he would not tell them when he learned he had moved into full blown AIDS. Further, he had forbidden his sister and friends to tell them. The dance going on in the waiting room & hallway would have made a good episode on a sitcom, if it had not been so serious.

Further, the doctors and nurses would call the sister back to talk in private, because he had requested that his parents not be told the full story. In addition, his sister is a nurse, so she understands more easily the situation and possible ramifications of each report. However, the fact that they were talking with her instead of the parents was causing the mother to fume – even though the daughter would return and immediately convey the information (that could be). If the doctors had talked with the mother & father, they could not tell the full story due to trying to not reveal the “real” issue.

Finally, late Saturday evening, the mother blew up at the doctor and demanded to be told the whole story. Since she did have a durable power of attorney, he did so. There’s a lesson in being careful what you insist on! She now had to face how her son, who could never do anything wrong, had been living a lifestyle of which she had always spoken in very derogatory terms.

Hmm … could that be why he never wanted to tell her? I do not in any way condone homosexuality. I believe that scripture is very clear on the fact that it is sin. However, it is also sin to be judgmental. Further, the sin of homosexuality is no “worse” or “more sinful” than any other sin – be that heterosexual promiscuity or adultery or lying or backbiting or gossip. Unfortunately, many of those who speak out against homosexuality do so out of attitudes that are equally wrong from a scriptural standpoint. We need to be seeking to minister and bring freedom and reconciliation, not condemnation.

After the initial shock and anger than no one had told them previously, there is much more peace “all around” now that people can talk openly and honestly about the entire situation. Now all the facts, conditions, and potential series of events can be laid out and understood.

So, why is it that we sometimes try to deceive someone? One lie only leads to another – and then another one to cover it – and then another, etc. Then you have to remember to whom you told what – and try to keep people who believe different stories apart, or (as he did) make sure that one party knows that the other party does not know something or knows “a different story.” It all gets very complicated – and the web begins to grow.

This leads to another old expression: Honesty is the best policy. Which, of course, is consistent with scripture, “No lies about your neighbor." (Exodus 20:16, The Message)

no compromise!

As I watched Ben Stein's recently released movie "EXPELLED," I could not help but notice how the two "theories" being discussed - the theory of intelligent design versus the theory of evolution - polarize people.

The abortion issue is another issue that has a similar effect on people.

In both cases, there are those who try to take “a more of moderate view" and merge the two opinions. While they likely view themselves as trying to balance the extremes by finding an area of compromise between them, what they are really doing is avoiding taking a stand.

For those who know that God Jehovah was the Intelligent Designer and that He both designed and created all that is, there is no compromise on that position. He designed and created not only earth and humankind, but all that exists. Further, it was all done with purpose. Nothing about it was “happenstance” nor did man “evolve” from moneys, apes, or tadpoles.

For those who truly believe in the sanctity of life, there is no way to reconcile abortion, under any circumstance, as being acceptable. On the other side of the issue are those who believe that the killing of the unborn is the right of a person to "choose' to eliminate a "problem" - even if that "problem" is someone else's life.

So where is the point of compromise?

Some say that there was intelligent design at the initial creation points, but then the world evolved from there.

Similarly, there are those who believe that while, in general, abortion is wrong, it is acceptable under “certain” circumstances. Those “exceptions” range from rape and incest to babies believed to be developing with certain abnormalities or handicaps to personal trauma to the mother if she continues with the pregnancy.

The problem is that these stances actually put the proponent into the evolution and abortion camps. No matter how they want to water it down or soft-pedal it, they are promoting evolution or abortion.

What we are talking about is situation ethics. Merriam-Webster defines that as being “a system of ethics by which acts are judged within their contexts instead of by categorical principles.” Put another way, it is the losing of absolutes.

Many years ago, I had a manager who lived in what I will call “the gray zone.” He did not seem to have absolutes on anything. One day, he confronted me, accusing me of “seeing everything as black or white.” It did not calm the situation any when I saw that as a compliment rather than a problem!

Are there times we should (even must) compromise? Yes. But, there are issues on which we need to compromise and there are issues where we should never do so.

We can compromise on where we are going to eat dinner, the color to paint the house, where we are going for vacation, or whether to buy a new riding lawn mower or a new refrigerator. These are all amoral decisions. There is no “right” answer from a moral perspective; it is a matter of what is most important to us at the time.

Conversely, the deity of the Creator of the universe and all that exists beyond it and the sanctity of life are moral issues. We should never compromise the Truth that we know from scripture and from personal relationship with the Creator on these topics and others in order to “get along” with those around us.

We have not been called to “get along” with the world. We have been called to change it! May it be said of us as it was said of believers in the 1st century that “These who have turned the world upside down have come here too.” (Acts 17:6b, NKJV) May we begin to develop that same reputation. It is time to quit retreating from the world on each and every topic and, instead, begin to “occupy and possess” this world. We must realize that this world was created with the intent of mankind, created in the image of God and living in close relationship with Him, having dominion in and ruling over it.

Adam and Eve relinquished their authority to Lucifer, or Satan as he is more commonly called. “The second Adam,” Jesus Christ, regained that authority. However, it is up to us, His people, to exercise that authority and begin to rule not only our own lives, but our cities, regions, and nations. I am not talking about a political coupe. I am talking about shifting the atmosphere over our cities, states, and nations to one of righteousness. I am talking about strong believers rising up to key positions in business, government, and even the media. I am talking about realizing that the Kingdom of God is not something for which we are waiting, but rather that it exists here and now. According to Luke 10:8-11, we carry it with us – or at least we should. We need to quit waiting for the Kingdom to come and start living in a way that demonstrates our citizenship in it.

understanding God's timing

"Of the sons of Issachar who had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do, their chiefs were two hundred; and all their brethren were at their command." 1 Chronicles 12:32 (NKJV)

I had an interesting illustration today of how important it is to know the timing of God in your life. The illustration came in two pieces. Before I get to that, let me lay a little foundation.

The verse quoted above is in the middle of a passage recounting the military might of David's army as he was made king of all of Israel at Hebron. This portion of that list is introduced in 1 Chronicles 12:23 with the statement,

"Now these were the numbers of the divisions that were equipped for war, and came to David at Hebron to turn over the kingdom of Saul to him, according to the word of the LORD." (emphasis added)

In this list that speaks of the "mighty men of valor" who were "armed for war" and "expert in war with all weapons of war," it notes of the sons of Issachar that they "had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do."

There is a message here, almost taken for granted by the writer, that is easy for us to miss. One of the critical skills needed for military success was to understand the times and know what to do. This ability was listed as the critical ingredient that the men of this particular tribe brought to the David's army.

Whether we are talking about effective advancement of the Kingdom of God on a corporate level or a personal one, it is critical that we understand the times and know what to do -- and when, exactly, to do it. This leads me to the "simple truths" I saw illustrated today.


don't lag behind ...

The first illustration came in a conversation as I was finishing lunch today. A young man who is involved in ministry began sharing about his personal vision for expansion of that ministry to the community. In talking about that, he shared how he was doing some things to better prepare and credential himself so there was be no question of credibility in what he and this ministry were doing. To this point, it had been simply a good exchange allowing the other couple involved in the conversation to understand this goals and vision of this ministry.

As he was speaking of how long the credentialing process would take, since it was being accomplished around his ministry, family, and other obligations, I heard the Holy Spirit say that he could not afford to take that long to complete it. I began to share with him the word of the Lord for his life about this situation sitting there across the table in the restaurant. The word was very clear that instead of the four years that he was planning to complete this process, he needed to have it completed in two. If not, there would be an opportunity that would pass him by because he was not yet prepared. He needed to take a step back and see what he needed to adjust to focus on completing this process.

nor run ahead ...

Later in the day, I encountered the counterpoint illustration. In this case, it was a statement made in the morning's message by an apostle to whom I relate, George Bakalov. While we are not in the same geographical location, his Sunday morning message is webcast and I can download it later (either from his website or from iTunes) and listen.

I do not know that Ap. Bakalov could ever be accused of lagging behind. Perhaps so, somewhere in his life, but not in what I have known of him. When God gives him a new idea, he's immediately pursuing how to implement it. But, as I learned from Bishop Bill Hamon, "a strength left unguarded can become a double weakness." (I'll leave the discussion of that truth for another day.) To his credit, Ap. Bakalov is trying "to keep his guard up."

He made a comment during this morning's message about needing to understand God's time and seasons. He said,

"God has been just challenging me here in the last couple of days ... saying, 'Wait a second. You've got so many things that you want to do, but how about My timing? How about My seasons? ... Do you have faith enough to allow Me to do things in the right time and in the right season?'"

the lesson ...

To the one, God was saying, essentially, "get it in gear and get moving." To the other He was saying, "wait a second, how about slowing down to wait for Me?" The same principle applies to both. We need to develop the skill of the sons if Issachar so that we understand the times and know what to do -- and when, exactly, to do it.

I was pondering this afternoon after the lunchtime conversation about how many times we miss an opportunity by not being in the right place at the right time. Part of that includes preparation. If we are there, but are not prepared, we resemble the 10 foolish virgins. The consequences may not be as severe, but we do miss an opportunity to "enter in" to whatever the opportunity would have been. We may not ever realize we have missed something, because our lack of preparation kept us from even being considered for it. Other times, we do know about what "could have been" and have to deal with the disappointment. How much do these missed opportunities affect how completely we fulfill our destiny? In all sincerity, only God knows.

On the other side, how many times do we miss the opportunity that would have propelled us into what God wanted us to do because we were too busy doing "good," even "Godly," things? Are we too busy working for God to stop and take time to hear what He has to say? Perhaps we need to slow down a little and wait for Him to set the stage for us. Then, that which we have been striving diligently to accomplish may become as David said of the defeat of the Philistines at Baal Perazim, “The LORD has broken through my enemies before me, like a breakthrough of water.” 2 Samuel 5:20 When we move in God's timing, the results are always MUCH better.

Let us purpose to not only seek God for His direction in what He wants us to do, but also ask Him where He wants it done, how He wants it done and when He wants it done. Then, and only then, can we be assured of being in the right place at the right time doing the right thing.

Who is Laurie?

I recently read Phil Cooke’s new book Branding Faith. It wasn’t what I expected. When I saw the title, I assumed “Branding” to be an adjective. So, I assumed the book to be about faith that “leaves its mark.” Instead, Cooke used the term as a verb. His point is that we need to “brand” our faith. We need to do something that causes it to be identifiable, or, to borrow from Merriam-Webster’s definition, “to impress indelibly.”

While many may find his book to be “too secular” because it talks about marketing techniques and tactics, I found it quite interesting and personally challenging. By that, I mean that it challenged me on a personal level. After all, are we not trying to get unbelievers to “buy in to” the gospel message? Unbelievers are spiritually “dead” in their sins. Most non-believers in the western world cultures are not “spiritually minded” with the exceptions being those who are in the occult or spiritism. (Unfortunately, there are also many who call themselves Christians who are also NOT spiritually minded! That’s a different subject left for another day.)

In his book, Cooke challenged the reader to tell their own, unique story. His premise is that in “Telling Your Story” you will find your “brand” – the image you want to portray, the reputation you want to build. He then proceeded with four questions to be answered to do that. I took it as a challenge to answer those questions for my own life. That is what follows.

At first glance, this may seem a little odd for a post on my "God's Simple Truths" blog. However, I believe that answering the questions posed by Cooke is one of the "truths" about ourselves and our reason for being that we all need to answer. So, as you read through my answers, begin to ask yourself how you would answer each of these questions. That's the "simple truth" you should take away from this posting.

What’s the Point?

As a secondary question, Cooke asked “Why are you doing [what ever it is you are doing]?” He then addressed both the areas of talents and abilities with which we have been equipped as well as family backgrounds and life experiences that have shaped how we view things.

Talents and Abilities

I have a passion to teach. It doesn’t matter if it is teaching mathematics at the high school or college level, teaching graduate level probability & statistics, or teaching computer science topics to my peers in the industry in which I have worked for the past 20+ years, I love to teach! It also doesn’t matter if I am in a lecture hall full of people or teaching (tutoring, mentoring) one-on-one. I still love to teach! But what I love to teach the MOST are the principles of the Kingdom. I greatly enjoy seeing someone “get it” with a concept of mathematics, engineering, or computer science. But the reward of knowing someone just grasped a key of the Kingdom is much greater. The impact of that can be far more reaching. How much better for someone to know how to restore a “crashed life” than just being able to restore a crashed computer system!

Life Experiences

I am one who fights for the underdog. I particularly fight for those I believe have been misunderstood or “done wrong.” (My apologies to the grammar teachers, but it conveys my message!) I always want to see “right” prevail. It’s no wonder that I love the old western movies. The “good guy” always did the “right” thing, whether or not it was popular. He was often misunderstood, his actions misinterpreted, and his motives misjudged. But he still did “right” – because of who he was and his personal integrity, ethics, and character. I still like those guys! That’s the way I always want to be. In the movies, they always won in the end. Unfortunately, in history, many men and women who filled those roles during that period in the history of America or in similar situations throughout the ages in any land, did not come out as well in the natural. Countless individuals, known and unknown, have given their lives to stand for right, to fight for truth. They are the real heroes.

What “wires” me this way? As Cooke points out, it is likely my own life experiences. I have been blamed too many times for something I did not do. I have been misunderstood even more. Words have been twisted, actions misunderstood, motives behind them misinterpreted and misjudged. I guess it is no wonder that I want to come to the defense of others to whom I see the same things happening. I learned long ago that you can never defend yourself in such situations – because the person(s) accusing you have already decided your guilt and that what you say is not to be trusted or even believed. It takes an intermediate (an intercessor, an advocate) to defend you. In my life, those have been rare. I know how difficult that makes walking through the situation and how much stress and pressure it causes. That, too, adds to why I do not want to see others go through those things.

Who are you?

Next, Cooke asks “Who exactly are you?” He states the purpose of the question as being “to discover what makes you who you are.” What is your family background? What is your educational background? Where did you grow up geographically? All of these things shape us.

As for me, I’m a southern gal. :-) That’s why I like things like grits and mustard greens and cornbread. I was also raised “poor.” We never went without food or clothes, but let’s just say we were on the lower end of the “lower middle class.” I realized the only way out of poverty was education. Fortunately, academia was the one area in which I excelled. I wasn’t athletic. I was not musically talented. (I have often pitied the poor woman from whom I took piano lessons. She must have dreaded me coming. I also feel sorry for my parents for making the financial sacrifice to pay for those because they wanted so much for me to be able to play the piano. Try as I might, I never was any good at it.) Nor was I “charismatic.” As I have often said of myself, when I was growing up I wasn’t just the wall flower at a party or social event, I was part of the wall! [Those who know me now find that hard to believe. It is evidence that God is a Healer.] Education became a priority for me. However, I had to break free from the poverty mindset in which I was raised to even be able to go to college, much less on to graduate school.

Like Cooke, my “third place” (that place where we hang out besides home and work/school) was the church. It is difficult for those who did not know me then to understand how I “grew up in the church” when I did not grow up in a godly home. The answer is simple. I lived across the street from it. I could (and did) go to church whether anyone else in my family did or not. That, too, has shaped who I am – both the fact that I “grew up in the church” and the fact that I often attended it alone.

Being so involved in the church in my childhood and teen years has it benefits (the things I learned at an early age about God and about living for Him) and its drawbacks (the things that I saw). I not only lived across the street from the church, I lived next door to the parsonage. In addition, since all of my primary relationships outside of my family were church relationships, I knew a lot of ministers. Unfortunately, I knew some of them “too” well and knew too much about others. I saw the double standards and hypocrisy. I knew “ministers” who where adulterers. I knew ministers who were homosexual. I also knew one who was a child molester. I knew how anyone who dared to try to expose them and their sin turned out to be the one who was “evil” in trying to attack and “falsely accuse the man of God.”

It is no wonder that I put such a high value on personal integrity. I am one who is much more concerned about character than I am about gifting. Your gift does not impress me unless you have the character to carry it well. I may respect your position, but your position does not impress me – your lifestyle does. One of the things that my experiences have developed is a pretty accurate discernment in such matters. If your walk is inconsistent with your talk, I will see through you. I hear more loudly what your life is speaking than what your words are saying. If those are inconsistent, you lose my respect. If they are too inconsistent, you also lose my trust.

What are your gifts and talents?

Then next question Cooke asks is “What were you born to do?” That’s an easy one. Teach. Today I would add to that Train and Equip. I don’t want to just impart knowledge. I want to know that the person has learned (or “caught”) what I have taught and can apply it. To me, that is the difference between a true teacher and a lecturer. Unfortunately, many “preachers” fall into the second category.

If you had asked my mother, she would have told you how I used to line my dolls up and hold school for them before I ever started to school. (I never did ask her what I used to teach them.) When I was in the first grade (and we did not have public kindergarten, so that was my first year of school), my teacher would have me help some of my classmates who were struggling with their lessons. Apparently, I could explain it to them in a way they would understand it – or at least give them the personal, one-on-one attention they needed. (I didn’t know the word “tutor” then.) When I was in fifth grade, the school started a program where the more advanced students from the higher grades would go down to the lower grades to tutor students who needed the extra attention. (Schools didn’t have aides then like they do now. We were a free resource. And, it was good for us as well.) No wonder I got degrees (plural) in Education!

I also love math. Why? Because it’s logical, of course! (Yes, I also loved Mr. Spock. Not the doctor, the half-Vulcan.) In mathematics, the rules are well defined. (I like well defined rules!) If applied properly, the rules of mathematics always yield the correct answer. The result obtained is either right (when rules are applied properly) or wrong (when they are not). Black or white. No gray. I like that, too!

And, I love to write. Whether it is the annual newsletter to friends that I have done now for over 20 years, a technical manual (like a 300+ page manual I wrote as part of my job), or something like this blog, I love to write. I love to express my feelings by writing them. I love to share my knowledge or things I have learned by writing them. And I often function as the “chief editor” of technical writings within what ever group I work. In part that is because I am good at “cleaning up” what others have written – whether grammatically or in wordsmithing it to make sure it will be understood or interpreted correctly. One area in which I know I would be good, but have not yet had the opportunity to try, is that of “ghost writing.” That is helping someone else who either is not a good writer or doesn’t have the time to do so get their message on paper. Or, maybe I should say “in print” since paper isn’t really a necessary medium these days! Another area as yet unrealized is in writing my own books and training manuals. That, too, will come.

What makes you different?

Cooke’s last question asks “what separates you from the pack?” What makes you unique?

Again the answer seems simple. I’m me!

I’m multifaceted. Not only have I seen myself that way for years, I’ve had it put in those terms in prophetic words given to me.

You’ve already learned (if you didn’t know before) that I am a teacher, I am a mathematician and statistician, and I am a professional in IT (Information Technology, what we used to call “Computing”). I can sit in a meeting with upper level executives as a technical expert. But I am much more “at home” in my jeans and a flannel shirt than in a business suit. I can relate to people on all levels of the social spectrum. Remember, I grew up “poor.” I can talk with the guy who is living on the street and hasn’t had a bath in a couple of weeks (or longer!) and turn around and talk with an executive or professional. This ability, too, has been addressed in prophetic words. There is Kingdom purpose in being able to be at ease in any level of social environment. Also, having grown up battling cockroaches and worse, I can survive in environments in which some of my friends today could not. However, 4- and 5-star hotels are MUCH nicer and much more comfortable! :-)

From another perspective, I can cook (well!), decorate a home, or landscape a yard – and that means do the work, not just design it! I can change a tire, change the oil in the car, and even change out a radiator. (For the record, I choose NOT to do those things these days!) I can sew or limb a tree. I can do bookkeeping or accounting (yes, I did that for a living at one point in time) or teach math and statistics. I can architect and run UNIX systems or lay out your factory floor. I can teach you how to balance your checkbook and how to create and live within a budget, or I can teach you about living within the realm of Kingdom principles. I will find your inefficiencies and areas in which you are ineffective. If you will allow me, I will offer you ways to address them. :-) I am a multitasker extraordinaire, but can focus intently when necessary. Overriding it all, I am task-oriented. Need to get the job done? Call Laurie!

So, who IS Laurie?

What Cooke addresses are our natural abilities and personality. He notes that callings are a different issue and that God will often call us to do things beyond our natural capabilities. So, what I have NOT addressed here is the call on my life or all the various facets of ministry involved with fulfilling that. The call on my life supersedes, but is not inconsistent with, who I am in the natural. This is much like the way the law of aerodynamics supersedes, but is not inconsistent with, the law of gravity. It if weren’t for gravity, the plane would not land. :-) If it were not for the natural, we would not be able to live and function in this natural world. But the spiritual giftings we allow to mature in us “by reason of use” and the call God placed on our life before the foundation of the earth are beyond our natural abilities to fulfill. For those, we must tap into God’s supernatural ability being manifested through us. That topic I will leave for another day.

For now, I will end this, signing off as Laurie, teacher and champion of the person(s) wronged.

Who are you?

look on the inside

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites!

You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside

but on the inside are full of dead men's bones and everything unclean.

In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous

but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.”

(Matthew 23:27-28)

I had a practical lesson in “looking on the inside rather than the outside” recently. I was in the market for a new home. I had made the decision to move from the home I had built more than a decade ago with its rather large yard in which I had planted LOTS of shrubs and flowers to a patio home or condominium, preferably all on one level, where someone else would care for the yard and shovel the snow. (Get the picture?) So, I had been looking.

After viewing a number of places, all either multi-level or condos in a high-rise building, I finally found one that had everything on my list. It was a condo, but all ground level. After looking at three different units in this same complex (over a period of several months), I found one that was done in the color scheme I wanted and had an “extra” library room, which I would use as an office. The exterior was stucco, and looked very “Florida.” Now, that just HAD to be for me!

When I went back with a friend to do another look at everything before making an offer, something just wasn’t right on the inside. The first realization was that something was not right inside me. (Spirit check!) As I focused on it, while I loved the exterior, the cute patio, the landscaping, and the wonderful storage area built in the oversized garage, something wasn’t right INSIDE the house. The paint was fresh and the color would work wonderfully for me. It had crown molding and other “extra” features. But what I began to realize was that I felt cramped walking through it. Other than the oversized master bedroom (with a less than oversized closet!), the rooms were very small. The living room area had a couch and two chairs and even that made it difficult to walk through. The dining area could barely hold the table, chairs, and hutch. And as I began to really look at the kitchen, there was enough room for dishes and some food – or some pots & pans – or some Tupperware. (Did you catch the “or” statements? Where would you put the other things? And then there are all those appliances and baking things, etc.) There just was not enough room ON THE INSIDE to be able to enjoy living there.

So, I chose to abandon all my dreams and visions of living there and pulling up to my Florida-looking home each day – in one of “THE” subdivisions in town. I mean, just the “Wilson Estates Parkway” address was worth something! (Err … I mean “costs” something!)

A couple of weeks later, I learned of a one-story patio home for sale. It was a free-standing house. At initial glance, not nearly as “nice” (interpret that “impressive”). It has a very light gray (almost white) vinyl siding and a white concrete wall across the front to enclose the private courtyard. From the street all you see is the garage, the concrete wall, and the roof. Very “bland” looking.

But step inside!

It is open, spacious, very light & bright. What the two places had in common were the gas fire place that lights at the flip of a switch, being a single-story with a “safe room,” oversized garage, and a very large master bedroom. There, the similarities end.

As I sit typing this, I am sitting in my living room (yes, I bought the patio home) that, as currently configured, could seat 12 with room for more. Behind it there is plenty of room for the dining table & chairs, hutch, curio cabinet, and piano. (No, I never figured out where I would put the piano in the other one!) In addition, there is room for six bar stools at the marble bar that corners the kitchen.

Not only do I have room for all my dishes, pots & pans, Tupperware, baking dishes and appliances, I have room to spare in my kitchen. I am thinking of putting either a small (two-seater) table or a work island in it.

It does not have an extra “library” room to use as an office, but that’s okay. The master bedroom is SO large that the office is at one end of it with an oversized chair and ottoman between the bed and the office area. The guest bedroom is larger than the master bedroom was in my previous home – as is its private bathroom and walk-in closet. Then there are the two walk-in closets in the master bedroom as well as the utility room with a separate storage area and the unfinished machine room with yet more storage area and the oversized garage with, you guessed it, yet more storage area. WOW!

Add it up, and there is about 1000 square feet more space in this patio home than in the condo I originally wanted. (I’ve lived in several places that didn’t have 1000 square feet total – much less “1000 more”!)

Everyone who has come to see it is amazed, because …

“It just doesn’t look that big from the outside!”

So … back to the point. We are warned about judging from the outside without looking at and dealing with the inside.

I realized that I would spend my time INSIDE my home – not outside looking at it. The outside might represent my “house,” but the inside would be my “home.”

Likewise, the real “me” is who I am on the inside – not the front I try to paint on the outside. No matter how good (“beautiful”) we look on the outside, it is on the inside that the fruit of our character is grown. Am I filled with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control as outlined in Galatians 5:22-23? Or full of hypocrisy and everything unclean?

Let’s all make sure we pay more attention to what we are on the inside … who we truly are … not just what we look like to others. I really like a quote I saw recently and I will close with it.

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation,

because your character is what you really are,

while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

(Coach John Wooden)